Love Decoded: 10 Psychological Secrets That Will Revolutionize Your Dating and Relationships
When you’re talking with someone, look at this person’s feet. The direction they point to may reveal a lot.
People tend to like you more after you make a mistake. This is called the "Pratfall Effect." The point is that your small mistakes make you seem more real and likeable. For example, if you spill your coffee on a date, it may make your date like you more because it shows that you're not perfect, which can be endearing.
The Triangular Gazing is about the way your eyes move when you're interested in someone: you look at one eye, then the other, and then at their mouth. If your date does this, it's probably a good sign that they like you.
The Halo Effect is the tendency for how we feel about someone to be affected by how attractive or likeable we think they are in general. For example, if you think someone is pretty, you might also think they are nicer, funnier, and smarter.
Attachment styles: In romantic relationships, there are three main attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Knowing yours and your partner's can help you figure out how your relationship works. For example, people with anxiety tend to worry about how committed their partner is, while people with avoidance tend to want more freedom.
The Optimal Distinctiveness Theory says that people tend to feel most comfortable when they find a balance between standing out and fitting in. A relationship often helps people keep this balance, which makes them happy.
It may sound like a cliche, but research backs up the idea that being kind is important. Genuine kindness is one of the things that makes people want to date you. This could mean being kind when they are having a hard time or going out of your way to make their day better.
The Power of Smell: People are drawn to the smell of people whose immune systems are different from their own. This isn't something you can notice on your own, but it's a fascinating example of how our biology affects attraction.
The Romeo and Juliet Effect: When parents get involved in a couple's relationship, the relationship gets stronger. It's named after the famous Shakespearean couple who fell in love even though their families were very against it.
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